“There is no such thing as a self-made man. You will reach your goals only with the help of others.”
George Shinn – Millionaire
“We only become what we are by the radical and deep-seated refusal of that which others have made of us.”
Jean-Paul Sartre – Philosopher
As you can see, the quotes above may be considered a little paradoxical at first glance, however on a closer look, we find that they are not.
If on one side, George Shinn, a famous millionaire believes we can’t get anywhere without a helping hand, Sartre says that fundamentally, if we don’t refuse other’s influence upon our own choices, we will never become truly released, as we will always be trying to fulfill the goals set by others, and will therefore walk through life bent by another person’s expectations.
You may share a similar experience with your life. Parents tend to try to influence their children career choices. If you had picked something that you had absolutely no interest in as a living, would have you been able to cope with a life lived doing something you hate? You probably would be struggling with depression right now, if that was the case. On another note, it’s quite normal that we as children do everything in our power to not disappoint our parents.
It’s therefore critical in Sartre’s opinion to be capable of standing on your own when it comes to picking your own path to happiness and disregard the noise around you. If you know something is right for you, don’t be afraid to go for it.
Acknowledging this, it’s very hard to get anywhere without a helping hand all the way to the end of our road. At times we’ll inevitably have to take detours to gather momentum. As such, it is important to never lose sight of our goals, even if we can’t always walk a straight line.
These depression quotes relate closely to the patient suffering with depression, hiding himself away from the world, and still convinced that everyone is out to hurt him. Ordinarily he lives in denial and thinks he can beat depression all by himself whenever he wants to, but he never takes action. Although no one else may walk the path for him, the choice and the decision to start walking must be his and only his.
How to overcome depression on your own or without medication then? If you’re trying to, please don’t be afraid of taking a helping hand along the way. Don’t even be afraid of asking for one. While we understand you may have been hurt in the past, understand also that there are folks out there who know how to overcome depression and dedicate their lives to helping others, and will be able to help you without judging you or asking for anything in return.